Something that I wrote back in 2011 for Julie at Intimacy in Marriage: Wives Who Are Sexually Refused.
Ever been manipulated? Most of us have. Ever been spiritually manipulated? If you’re part of any type of religious community it is likely that you have or at least the attempt has been made and perhaps you recognized it for what it really was at the time and were able to avoid it. Spiritual manipulation […]
An exchange between a husband and a wife: Wife: What’s worse than not having a clue?Husband: What?Wife: Not WANTING a clue! Sadly, the state of many marriages is summed up in this humorous, humorous if you’re not living it, exchange. It is one thing to be blissfully ignorant, I mean, we don’t know what we […]
Again, I don’t believe in karma but I do believe that we reap what we show. Galatians 6:7 (NASB) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. The thing about reaping what you sow is that you cannot start sowing something new today and expect […]
I don’t believe in karma, I do believe that you reap what you sow though. Galatians 6:7 (NASB) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. In other words, if you kick the dog when you walk in the door at the end of the […]
Too often we’re trying the wrong things to get what we want out of our marriages. One of the craziest things that we try that very rarely works is denying your spouse what they want. I don’t know if it’s vindictiveness or what, but we try it and will continue at it for YEARS. At […]
Too good not to share: From Marriage Helper, Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage.
Perhaps you are no longer refusing your spouse sex and you feel you’re being a generous by going past your preference for less sex but don’t realize that you have moved from being an outright refuser of sex to a gatekeeper of sexual pleasure. What is the difference between a “refuser” and a “gatekeeper”? A […]
You cannot have your cake and eat it too. This is a two choice dilemma. I want to keep the cake and I want to eat the cake. To choose one makes the other impossible. The price that we pay for peace in our marriage is often a two choice dilemma, peace or our integrity. […]
I finally have something to say after a long dry spell. Thank you for your thoughts, prayers and kind words during this difficult time. Something I read recently made me realize that there are two options to the challenges we face in our lives and our marriages. 1. Accept it and live with it. 2. […]
It was a difficult winter as far as the weather for much of the country and it was a particularly difficult winter for my family as I lost my dad this past February. As such, I haven’t felt the inspiration to write. My apologies for that. Hopefully inspiration will hit soon. Blessings, Kentucky Colonel
DISCLAIMER: This thread is not about extreme situations where abuse is present but is about normal marital conflict and marriages that include two sinners. Somethings I’ve been reading recently got me thinking about the phenomenon of the “awakened sexual refuser” or the “former sexual refuser”. Recently I’ve also noticed another phenomenon of what I call […]
There isn’t a one of us that hasn’t made a mistake in their marriage. In fact there isn’t a one of us who hasn’t made many, many mistakes in our marriages. One of the more difficult realizations on the road to maturity is that we cannot change the past and must deal with those hurts […]