First, I’m sorry it’s been so long since my last post. The paying job has been very busy and I just haven’t had the time to think about a post let alone write one.Recently my Pastor has been speaking on spiritual maturity and he’s used the analogy of mountain climbing and reaching the summit as a metaphor for spiritual maturity. An observation that I made in my mind during his sermon was that it is interesting how emotional maturity and spiritual maturity are so closely related. A number of things he spoke about in regard to spiritual maturity were applicable to maturity in general.
I really believe that just about every couple that marries believes that they will be married for a long time, but, based on the statistics, about half of them are incorrect. Why is this? It’s because having a healthy, happy marriage is difficult and when the going gets tough statistics tell us that in about 50% of marriages one or both of the spouses give up and the marriage ends.
So what about those that tough it out through the tough times, are they in a healthy happy marriage? Sadly, many are not but they choose to continue on the journey. My Pastor said in his sermon that becoming spiritually mature was a hard road. Which got me to thinking about the rate at which marriages fail in the church. The rate that marriages fail inside the church is about the same as those outside of the church. Is that troubling to anyone else? What does that say in regard to the maturity level of church membership?
Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.~James 1:2-4 (NIV)
What does it take to make a healthy and happy marriage? Two generous, committed, good-willed adults. The challenge is for each of us to grow up.