Do you remember playing house with the kids in your neighborhood growing up? I don’t know about you but when I played house I usually got told what a daddy and husband was supposed to do and in all honesty I was probably a little bossy about what a mommy and wife was supposed to do as well. Thirty plus years later I can look back at those games and see the expectations my playmates and I held about marriage and roles within marriage. A lot has changed in those thirty plus years but having expectations hasn’t changed at all. This blog is going to be about moving from those immature expectations toward a more healthy and grown up view of what marriage should be.
Dr. David Schnarch calls marriage “a people growing machine” and he’s definitely right about that. Marriage will expose your immaturity and selfishness faster than anything on earth and that’s why having a happy marriage takes a lot of hard work. That’s why I decided to begin blogging about the hard work of building a strong and healthy marriage.
I won’t post just to be posting. I only post when I think I have something to say. I want to be challenging you and myself with my posts. Almost always the posts are easier to write than to live out but my wife is a regular reader so you can be sure I’ll be held accountable to what I write.
I am not a therapist or counselor. I’m just a regular guy doing what he can. I am a Christian and I have a Christian world-view I do not intend to allow the political issues of the day concerning marriage sidetrack this discussion. In other words, we won’t be discussing those political issues because they don’t enter into the equation of what it takes to build a happy, healthy, mature marriage.
I hope we’ll all learn something from one another.